TYLER (KYTX) - A new survey shows 1 in 5 relationships begin online, but many who turn to the Internet for love could get hurt.
You could be dealing with a scammer who promises to meet you, if you give them your financial information to help them with travel expenses.
Or maybe your online crush is a violent online predator who knows how to say all the right things.
The most important thing is to keep yourself out of vulnerable situations.
Family Violence Coordinator Becky Henderson from the East Texas Crisis Center says, "We're hearing more and more stories of people being in violent situations because of meeting online."
She says if you do date online, it's your responsibility to take precautions.
"What happens on line is that someone can present as anyone or as anything they want and its up to you to verify that."
She says to always meet somewhere public and pay attention to red flags.
"If they make fun of the fact that you want to meet in public or that you want to take separate vehicles somewhere or they kid you about that or they say oh what's the big deal? To me that's a red flag!"
You could be dealing with a potentially abusive person, or someone looking to swindle you out of money.
Scammers tend to target those who seem lonely or isolated.
As Smith County Coordinator of the VOW program, Tony Puckett works with couples across the spectrum.
When it comes to online dating scams, he says,"It really is sad that people are praying on and taking advantage of those that are seeking something that's valuable in life, but the individual has to exercise caution."
Henderson says, "The scams, someone comes on real heavy, and the I love you's are pouring out in the second email and things like that, that's definitely something that would raise a red flag."
Be ready to know when the situation has taken a negative turn, and when to get out.
"If it feels strange, if it feels like something's just not right," Henderson says, "you don't have to wait for concrete evidence, to get out of there, because then usually its too late."
She suggests avoiding people who are secretive or try to isolate themselves.
If you're not sure about someone you've met online, let other friends meet them and get their feedback. They may see something you don't.
Experts also say if you're going to use online dating, try to use reputable sites with a good track record.
You might also try background check web sites or those that offer group dating, if you're looking for safety in numbers.
